Melissa Frey

Fiction Writer, Freelancer for Hire, and Paleo Enthusiast

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The Un-Resolution New Year

Okay, so I haven’t posted on here in awhile. Like since last summer. Life’s been crazy, we moved, the holidays… blah, blah, blah. You know how it goes.

But those all kind of seem like excuses, don’t they?

So here’s my un-resolution for this year: no resolutions that will stress me out or cause me guilt. Sound good? I thought so.

Instead, I’m resolving not to make resolutions, but just get back to what I know I should be doing. Yoga, meditation, prayer, Bible study, writing, editing, mindfulness, healthy eating…all the things I did at some point in this past year but that somehow made their way out of my regular routine.

I did some of the things on that list this morning. Did I feel guilty that I didn’t start on January 1st? No way! I’m super proud of myself.

Here’s why: Imperfect progress is the name of the game. Because any step forward gets you that much closer to your goal.

Ann Voskamp wrote a blog post about Perfectionism and Procrastination and Doing the Next Hard Thing. She summed it up this way: “Fire your perfectionism and your procrastination will quit too.”

Isn’t that freeing? So instead of feeling guilty that you ate one more leftover Christmas cookie today or you missed out on yoga because your kids woke you up early and the dog was tracking snow through the house and your husband burnt pancakes in your nice new skillet then your oldest got a bloody nose and your youngest started screaming at all the blood…breathe. Just breathe.

Just breathe, try again tonight, or tomorrow morning, or tomorrow night, or Wednesday at 3pm, and know that imperfect progress is infinitely better than no progress at all.

So let’s all make an un-resolution this year: stress-free, guilt-free, worry-free imperfect progress.

I think we’ll all be surprised at how far we can get.


P.S. Here’s a picture of the wreath I made this year. Yes, it’s still on my door. No, I won’t be taking it down any time soon.

Christmas Wreath


Trust: Still Learning…

So I guess I’m trying this whole blogging thing. It promises to be an adventure!

To start my first post, I thought I’d give you a little background on me. I’ve been writing my entire life (and doing music, too, but that’s another post!) and I absolutely LOVE it. It is unquestionably something I’ve been called to do. So here I am, putting it out there, bounding forward with courage and determination.

I don’t profess to be a teacher of writing; I am simply a student, trying to learn the rules so I can figure out how to break them. My posts won’t be perfect, but I hope you’ll come along for the ride.

Here goes nothing…


I recently finished my first novel, The Secret of the Codex. Writing it was a huge learning experience and I can honestly say that I am not even close to the same person I was when I started. Yet, in some ways, I’m still learning the things God was trying to teach me through the writing process, even at the very beginning.

In writing the book, I discovered, in many ways, who I was. And that kind of introspection, as you could likely surmise, dug up all sorts of issues I never knew I had. Issues I didn’t really want to know I had.

I’m sure you have no idea what I’m talking about.

As it turns out, TRUST was the biggest of those issues. The theme was threaded throughout the book, woven in every word and phrase.

Sometimes God just has to hit this stubborn girl over the head.

It’s been quite a journey. I can’t say I trust easily now; I’m not even sure I’ve made much progress. But I do know that God calls us to trust. And the best part? He’s trustworthy.

I have to trust that I was given that story for a reason, that I was called to write for a reason. That everything in my life happened for a reason. Sometimes that’s a hard truth to swallow.

And while we’re on the subject of hard truths… Here’s another thing, though I don’t often want to hear it: it may not be for me to know that reason. That’s probably the hardest part.

But He’s still trustworthy.

So here’s the question I pose today, something that hit me between the eyes only a few days ago: Maybe I don’t trust God because the God I think I know is too small?

I hope to expand on that in a later post.

Thanks for listening! I’d love to hear your thoughts on this:

When do you find it hardest to trust?

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